Dilemmas of an NRI….

NRI….Non Resident Indians…

Dilemmas of NRI’s (BIRDS MAKING NEST AWAY FROM their NEST) …

This post is not just about Indians living abroad, but about all those people who migrate to new places from their homeland. I wrote NRI because I am one of them. After living for so long away from INDIA and having met so many like me from different parts of WORLD, I know this article holds true for all of us.

No matter whats our skin color, hair color or what language we speak, Our HEARTS beat the same way, they display the same EMOTIONS, cause at the end of the day we are all HUMANS.

NRI – The NON RESIDENT INDIANS . For some a dream come true status and for some a matter of destiny. I guess for those whom its a dream come true (I mean a choice made consciously) the dilemma may not be there or just a few. However for all others it starts as soon as they land in a land far away from homeland.

I still remember the day when my plane took off from Mumbai airport. As it sped on the run away & gradually took off late in the darkness of night… I could see the buildings lit with lights…, cars ,queens necklace…all getting smaller & smaller… I could feel my heart wrenching, a lump in my throat and tears rushing in to my eyes ready to roll down my cheeks…. I felt a BIG part of me is left behind and right that moment the thought came ..not sure for how long or if I ever will be back to call it HOME again.

Well I don’t know if all go through the same emotions but I know majority of us start thinking about homeland as soon as we land on a Foreign land( without knowing that we will start calling this land as our HOMEAND few years down the lane). Firstly we all struggle with establishing ourselves ,career wise, culture wise to the new land. Once achieved this the BIG question arises….should we go back ,should we stay back…what’s the best time to go back, How old should be the kids for easy transition..all these questions run as Bollywood movies black & white flashback in our mind. For a long time this continues to be the topic amongst the family get together’s or casual meets over a cup of tea.

Is there a certain concrete answer to it ??? I am afraid no… there is no firm YES or NO to it. As we all are unique and different individuals in our own way so are our situations. Our Family situations and needs will be different, our career goals are different , our financial securities are different and so are our PRIORITIES. I can tell you one thing no situation is a win win situation, they all have their own pros & cons. I have met some friends who stayed for few years & then just left (Some planned for couple of years & left, some who just left like that) , some who went back & came back , some who did this back & forth couple of times (and I am not exaggerating) , have met seniors who have told , we regret we could not go at the right time , if you even think about it then go at the right time. RIGHT TIME …what is a right time…or should I say is there a RIGHT time ??? Answer to it is there is no time such as RIGHT TIME… you make your decisions as RIGHT DECISIONS and then you call that time as RIGHT TIME.

My point is keep your priorities clear and enjoy your present . Life has its UPS and DOWNS. Please do not compare..else you will always be tensed and you will never make up your mind , you will always be in DILEMMA.I Wish LIFE was as simple as 2 + 2 = 4 . Alas, its not, but isn’t that the beauty of it.

I read a post about a person who hadn’t been to her parents for last 10 years (I am sure there must have been some valid reasons for it) she missed them desperately she wanted to go badly…she did go FINALLY ..one day …after receiving a CALL (that we all dread for) . I just wish she could have taken that one decision… when she could have enjoyed the twinkle in those waiting eyes, that warm HUG she was desperately desiring for , “come my sweetie” that lovely voice she was longing to hear for… We all go through such thoughts …WHEN , HOW …there is no perfect answer to it.Sometimes putting too much BRAIN is not worth ..LISTEN to your HEART. Sometimes it gives you right guidance too.

I hear the discussions EDUCATION is better here or there. As parents we all want best for our kids, our parents did for us too right ?? We Studied in our HOMELAND’s but are making successful career here equally competent with kids who studies here right. We have seen people who studied here and are making marks in other countries. Discussions about the families , facilities, earnings…the point is there no END to these discussions. There is no fixed formula for it , there is no firm yes or no. The point is be HAPPY where ever you are, make that call ..listen to your HEART, we all get ONE LIFE. Do not spend it in regretting instead LIVE IT enjoying with what you have and what you do. We all are our own MASTERS. As long as you are happy from within, you will enjoy wherever you live and it will be your HOME SWEET HOME.

जीवन सरल है ….The life is Simple

Life is simpleजीवन सरल है
अगर मौन कथा है औ मन ही में सीमित व्यथा है ,
जीवन सरल है
गर मंदिर-मस्जिद के फेरों से दूर ,मन के घेरे में शिवाला है,
जीवन सरल है
तेरे मेरे इसके उसके जालों से परे गर यह  मन मस्त मतवाला है,
जीवन सरल है
गर झूठ-प्रपंच से परे यह मन सच की राह पे चलने वाला है,
थोड़ी सी हैं साँसे फिर भी जाले कई बुने  हैं हमने
साफ़ रहे जो यह मन तो जीवन सचमुच सरल है…
फंसे जो इन मकड़ जालों में तो फिर जीवन विकट गरल है
वर्ना हंस के जीते जाओ तो जीवन यह बहुत सरल है….

प्रीति मिश्र तिवारी
The life is Simple
if silence is your story and you keep your sorrows to yourself
The life is simple
if you are away from the differences of religions and realize GOD is within you
Life is simple
if you are away from worldly matters of this is his this is mine, if you are content with what you have
Life is simple
if your heart follows the truth and is away from the lies and deceptions
Life is short lived and still we have webs of wrongdoing around us…
if your conscience is clear then life is really simple…
if you get entangled in the cobwebs of hatred and lies then life is very difficult
else..follow the right path smilingly and you will realize this  life is very simple…

FACEBOOK SPECIES

A dear friend of mine suggested me to explore my writing skills in the area of Humor(Humour). Since then, my mind started exploring and weighing various options on what subject to write on.

Human personalities have always fascinated me, there is something about the human behaviour that helps understand nature of a person. Now, when I say that, please don’t assume that I understand human nature inside out, believe me sometime I am a mystery to myself too. Saying that, won’t you agree that with experience you do learn quiet a bit. I can say with my own experiences with people, my intuitions/perceptions don’t go wrong most of the time.

Coming back to finding humor(humour) and writing about it that will raise enough interest amongst my BLOG readers, I decided to narrow down on a topic that most of us can relate to. What better way to start with Facebook , since many of us start our day with looking at our Facebook account rather than looking in to our face in the mirror in the morning ;-). Here are few of the personality traits which make Facebook quiet an interesting socializing stop in the field of media. You may associate yourself with one of them or to quiet a few of them or might associate many from your friends list to these personality traits ..With a grain of salt READ it , ENJOY it and SHARE IT ,if you were smiling even once while reading these personalities :-)). Please update me if I missed any or if you have come across any other kind of species too 🙂

1) LIKERS : These are the people you will rarely find commenting on anything. All you see is them LIKING hundreds of pictures and posts, basically liking each and everything that comes on their news feed (I guess ). Sometimes I wonder, If they even read the stuff written (because I have seen them liking posts where a death has been mentioned or a sad incident is mentioned). Hmmmm.. do we really like that stuff or am I not sensitive enough ???

 2) ACCOUNTANTS: These are an interesting group of people. I admire them for their immense aptitude of tracking and keeping record of likes and comments. They don’t care what you write or what picture you post. If you like their picture they will like yours, no matter its good or bad. If you put comment on their post/picture they will do it to yours. Meaning they keep their accounts perfectly balance.

3) FEELERS: Now this is one interesting group of people..majority of the time their post starts with “feelings” feeling loved (Really ?? if so then why you are on FB updating status), Feeling emotional (use that tissue box next to you why FB) Missing so and so…(ok.. I get it, then why not pickup the phone and talk to the one whom you are missing , why putting the status on FB for whole world). Enjoying family time in a restaurant (so then enjoy it dear with the good food and family ..why busy updating status on FB). Watching so and so Movie (well is the movie so boring that you have to update status).

4) LOVE BIRDS: This is the most interesting specie…Its quiet interesting to read their posts. When you read them and when you look at their pictures , you will feel like may be Shakespeare was inspired by them only, to write Romeo-Juliet. My Love, Our Journey together, My life, etc..that’s just a few words..their PDA might make you wonder about  your own love life. Its ironical that majority of them are ANGRY BIRDS in real life :-). Most of the time the case is people who PDA (Public Display Of affection) on facebook are not at all having PDA’s (Private Display of Affection) in home ground. I hope and wish these angry birds truly turn in to Love birds one day.

5) STALKERS :These are the ones whom one should be extremely careful of. I feel sometimes I need to go back and revisit my friends list just to keep a tab on this specie. They will become friends with most of the people that you know of (common friends you understand but sometimes you wonder how do these people know your other friends ?? cause there is hardly any common connection and then you come to know they became friends to your friends as “YOU” are that common connection. They will like all those posts /pictures what you like. Sometimes they even tend to write exact same wordings too. (well you are an inspiration to them after all 🙂 ) They will pretty much copy your each and every action , you can not have your signature way of doing things coz they are ready with their copying way to do the same. They will follow you not just to the friends, but to the groups you join, whatever you post in it they will do exactly same thing. They will basically make you realize what a creepy feeling of being stalked is.

6) SPIRITUALS: Now these are the species who have devoted themselves to Almighty on facebook. All you see from them is pictures of God/Goddess or verses from their Holybooks.Thanks to them for saving others from a trip to all these religious places and helping with Gas(Petrol/Diesel) savings and in turn environment friendly.

7) GLOOMIES: These people are living a real tough life. You really feel why God gives them so much trouble and hardship. Every other day they are sad , or feeling low or having problem in their life or have some kind of physical pain, I just wonder how posting on FB will help them overcome their issues. God knows soon, FB might start charging them for it (if the issues are resolved by sharing their issues on FB then FB has to charge for those services right)

8) REFORMERS: This is another interesting specie. Its always nice to get views on different stuff from people cause sometimes it broadens your thinking or changes your perspective to look in to issues in a different light. These are the people who have pretty much opinion on each and every thing, not only opinion, but suggestions too… right from the knick knack of homes to the worldly affairs. Interesting thing is that they are so passionate about their views that you feel sometimes if given a right chance they might be able resolve all the issues that the world is facing :-). God bless these souls.

9) SHARERS: Quite contradictory to the above mentioned as the name suggests these people have nothing of their own to write or post. Its always quotes or pictures of others that they keep on sharing. You wonder sometimes if they have their own voice or opinion. No matter what the case be they keep your Newsfeed flooded :-).

10) LIVE FEEDERS: You may not know these people well, but I can assure you within two weeks of you being friends with them , you will be knowing their exact schedule. All the personal details what they cook, what their routine is, who is their friend, what does their pet likes etc…etc..

11) I ME MYSELF :This is one group I wonder why they are even on Facebook, cause you will hardly find them commenting or liking others stuff. All they do is keep posting their pictures and status updates. If you by mistake forgot to comment or like their posts, they will make sure to point out your mistake and draw enough attention on what you missed.This will be to the extent that you may end up taking out your phone and start liking their picture or post right then and there in front of them. Well you can’t blame them they genuinely want you to be updated about them after all its all ABOUT I, ME, MYSELF.

12) DARK HORSE: Now these are the treasures from mines of Facebook. I consider them findings of Facebook. Its like when you go through their posts and pictures you realize , you hardly knew them before. You get to know their opinions, you get to know their talents , basically you get to know what they are capable of. They emerge as a totally new person to you and I really need to thank FB for introducing me to these true Dark Horses.

13) SILENT WATCHERS: This is an interesting group of people, God knows who they fear for , but you will hardly get any comments from them. I am sure Facebook will charge penalty to them, as they keep increasing the stocks of what’s app and other such social app. The reason I say it is because you post something on Facebook and you get feed back immediately on what’s app or email or other means of personal message. “Love your picture” or “love what you wrote” or “that’s a lovely dress” or “that food looked yummy, can you tell me the recipe” and you wonder “Ok.. why don’t post the response to the right source ?” They might meet you and then tell you all praises about how good your post was or how lovely you looked or how they don’t find right words to express how they felt and hence could not write and you wonder “Hello !!!! those are the exact words that you were lost of to write on the public forum and now you have exact same words to say personally. Well, you know what you don’t have to do it even now. Please exempt yourself from trying so hard to find the right words ..”.

14) GPS : Well when you read their posts you feel like you are following them through GPS or so cause they pretty much check in and check out every place they go to. Grocery store, Doctors office, Mall, Parks,Movies, Restaurants you name it and their status has it .(Thankfully some of them are wise enough not to mention about their rest room ventures)

15) Sherlock Homes : I love these species. I admire them for the time they have and I am envious of their e-devices. I wonder how good devices they have , as they can zoom and see all the details , they can comment/compliment/inquire you about even the slightest detail that may not even have come to your notice or you might even not be aware of. Thanks for taking so much time and effort in looking and noticing each and every detail. After all , all these pictures and posts are meant for that only right :-).

Well I hope you enjoyed the different facebook species (personality types on facebook) and could relate yourself or those on your friends list to some of the above mentioned ones. If it brought smile on your face then don’t forget to share this page (Of course on your Facebook wall :-))

 

A Mother’s Plea….

I don’t wish for too much money,
I don’t wish for too much prosperity ,
I wish for inner peace for you and me,
I don’t long for eternal beauty ,
Nor to be healthy night and day ,
For those are the things bound to fade away..
I wish the hatred from hearts to go away
For HE never asked us to pray HIM in different names
Nor HE asked us to erect monuments for his fame
He gave us a life to live with love , harmony and gay …
I wish for kids (mine and yours) to see the love and harmony
To see the inner beauty us HUMANS hold ..
A world to LIVE .. A world to LOVE..
I wish tonight .. As I lit the candle and pray …

Candle

As 2014 is winding up….the memories of 2013 come rushing through…around the same time in 2012 was Sandy brook shooting massacre with little ones loosing their lives in USA. 2008 it was Mumbai(India) terrorist attack  and then again this year in Pakistan little kids lost their lives to the aspirations of some adults…

To tell you the truth, I avoid reading all these news cause then the thoughts linger on my mind for so long….but this news was all around the Internet and various other media modes. The Facebook page was flooded with the news, so I gathered all my strength to read this article (My basic principle is if something gives you negative vibes ,stay away from it) and as I read the gruesome details of how 141 children were made to stand in a line and just shot down…. to say I had goosebumps is not enough…

I could not sleep the whole night. The loss of parents of these deceased kids ached my heart. I could not let my mind & heart imagine what these little fellows might have gone through during that time…what must have been rushing through their minds, why were they chosen for such hideous act.They didn’t even experience the beauty of life… WHY ????

As a mom I want my kids to live in a HAPPY and HEALTHY world (I am sure Mom’s all around the world desire the same). We have enough to worry about, as far as natural resources /calamities are concerned. I want our kids to know that we can exist together “living” with our differences and still “loving” each other. Where is it written or which religion in the world suggests that we can get happiness by hurting others? That, we need to kill each other to prove our points. Any issue that needs killing of other human beings to prove a POINT is not worth it(in my mind).

I want the kids to learn to love each other, to have respect for each other, to exuberate self confidence, yet be humble. To learn to share , to care, to be grateful for what we have. Sharing a little bit of HAPPINESS will eventually bring happiness to them. Sympathy, Empathy, Gratitude are not merely words in dictionary.They still live, are real and exist in real people.

I know things can not change in one night and I know one person alone can not bring the revolution, but I know we all in our own little way can bring these changes and make THIS WORLD a BEAUTIFUL place for us and for our coming generations.

My baby step in this direction has been by making my kids say a little prayer for the things they are thankful for that day , for the food they got that day and be grateful for that one little thing that made them happy on that very day and one thing that they did in the whole day that they think might have brought happiness to the other person. I know these are not some great or highly revolutionizing actions but the regular reinforcements of these little actions will hopefully nurture GREAT humans and a GREAT WORLD…. Amen !!!

Please do share if you do take any such baby steps or have any ideas…cause TOGETHER WE CAN …:-))